Just like the saying you are what you eat, you are what you THINK. It is important to notice when we are being too hard on ourselves and use negative self-talk. For most, we do this so often that we are unaware that we do it and how to deal with it. Think of your mind as a computer with its set programing of mental thoughts. We have to identify the statements that have been programed to use and reset them.
Your thoughts affect how you react to situations in life and most of the time we use them to motivate and inspire us on. Unfortunately we use these statements to create pressure more than inspiration. You know the feeling of when a paper or report is due and the deadline is approaching. We use negative self-talk to make sure we getting it done. While it helps to get us moving it also creates stress that builds and affects our health. When we stress and do not relieve or reduce that stress we can cause our bodies to gain weight, lower our immune functions, and create a downwards spiral to ill health.
When it comes to your New Year's Resolutions, motivate yourself with positive affirmations and delete the Negative self-talk.
- I can't
- I don't
- I'm sorry
- I tried
- I can't finish this
- It won't be in time
- It's not good enough, it's not clean enough
- I wish I had more energy
- I doubt
- All these indicate failure and you want to motivate not demean. How many of these do you say daily? You can change them around to say "I will and I can!" I know I use to say these statements to myself often throughout the day in just my chores and schedule. I looked at my accomplishments with negative influence that it was done, but not the way I wanted it. I learned to say "look at all I accomplished today", instead of what had to be left for tomorrow. I learned that not everything goes as planned and I stayed positive in my work. This decreased my stress and helped me be a better Stay at Home mom.
- Presentence. State your desire as if it has already happened. “I am relaxed and calm", do not say a want to be relaxed and calm, you want to claim that it already is. Do not say "I will get organized" but rather, “I am well organized". You are training your thoughtful state to feel the phrase and it is something that becomes automatic.
- Make it Personal. Use the word I or your name. “I am healthy and happy".
- Use positive phrases only. Do not say, "I will not lose my temper". What happens is your mind pictures you blowing up or yelling? It recalls the results of the negative what it. In stead say, "I am calm and relaxed", or "my emotions are correctly expressed". I am not saying so not express your feelings or to suppress them, but rather to give your self positive memories to over come the stressor to stay calm and manage the emotions that are arising. Affirmations help you to relax and understand your behavior.
- Be specific. If you want to lose weight that make it about that fact. First visualize yourself as the person you wish to be. Make this a picture to carry with you. Phrase: “I am losing weight healthy and I am 10 pounds lighter", and see yourself happy, healthy, and the ten lbs gone.
- Be realistic. If you want to make $100,000 next year and your current income is $30, 000, then this is not a realistic affirmation. If you are 50 lbs over weight and you want to be 50 lbs lighter in 2 weeks this is not realistic. Make a plan of increase or decrease within a realistic level. “I am 5 lbs lighter this week". Or "I will be making $5, 000 more next year". When we have a goal of realistic affirmations our mind looks to make that happen.
- Say your affirmations before bed and when waking.
- Say them when relaxing or meditating on the affirmation.
- Say your affirmation both in your mind and say aloud. Hearing the affirmation reinforces the message. Be sure to listen and believe.
- Write down your affirmations. When we see them in writing it makes a strong visual connection.
- Repeat your affirmations into the mirror. This will create rapid changes to see you and hear your voice saying and owning the affirmation.