I think it is important to find something you love in addition to being a mom and do it. I remember a year when my husband asked me, where you would like to go on a dream vacation and I could not answer him. I had no idea. I had become too wrapped around the idea of I had to stay home to take the kids to their activities, to cook, to check homework, and visualized that the house would fall apart if I went anywhere. I take pride in all the things I do for the household, but I should have thought beyond that. He asked me to think about it and get back to him. I took my time thinking on where I wanted my once in a lifetime destination to be. During that time I also attended a MOPS meeting and a question was asked; "Tell me about you". I started telling about my kids, the pets, the places we have lived, my husband’s job, but not once did I mention something about just me. This was a shocking eye opener for me because I think I should have been able to mention more personal interest along with my family.
While my family and activities are important and loved, they should not be all that define who I am. I decided that I needed to take time for myself and relax a little. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you aged over night? By taking a few steps to take time for myself, I have reversed the signs of aging, lost weight, and handled stress better. With a few additions listed below I noticed I laughed more, balanced my schedule better, and was a better example for my kids. They see everything we do, and I want them to know taking care of you is important; you just have to rearrange something's, make priorities, and don't sweat the small stuff.
When making time for yourself, you want to reduce a few things that may cause you stress or over pack your schedule. I volunteer at my children's school and there is always a function, event, or something to help with. While I am usually available I have trained myself to say NO. On Tuesday and Thursdays I take longer runs and cannot be at the school. At the beginning of the year I accepted some tasking pushing my runs to the side and helping the school. What happened was my body got more tired and I noticed I was moodier. While helping brings me joy, I had to learn to pass on something's to make sure I took care of myself. This is still a hard task, the word no tends to get stuck in my throat, but I am working on it. When you commit yourself to YOU, then you need to make sure you meet that deadline. You have to take care of yourself for your health and your family. You are a better mom when you take that time to recharge, relax, eat right, and keep a healthy schedule.